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He proceeded to offer me personally a look that is knowing launching in to a monologue about their ever-enlightening travel experiences and exes offshore.
“Just to be clear,” we inquired, “you don’t have actually an Asian fetish, do you really?”
He tells me personally no, he doesn’t, but he chooses never to head out with blond ladies since they remind him an excessive amount of their mom and cousin. He doesn’t even actually like white girls. He grins at me. We give him side-eye.
Flash ahead a couple of months and I’m on another very very first date with another guy that is white. That one has resided abroad in Southern Korea. I am told by him he likes my tattoos and asks exactly exactly how my moms and dads feel about them. He’s heard that Asian moms and dads could be disapproving and strict. I simply tell him I’m my person that is own and none of their damn company just just just what my moms and dads think.
Between times like these, receiving very first communications that ask, “what nationality have you been?” and being catcalled not just to be a female also for being Chinese (“ Nǐ hǎo ! Konnichiwa ! Where ya going, infant?”), I’ve been fetishized by white — and — that is non-white everywhere. I’m maybe maybe not alone — Asian women can be well known to have this.
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